Well, big day...we bought sperm!! Woohoo!!! Really, it just makes us laugh...it's a silly notion. We had spent hours going over the donor profiles to find Mr. Right. A couple days later he popped up as "only a limited number of vials of this donor's sperm are available." What??? But, but, but....we want him. So, even though we're not ready to start the process yet, we decided we'd better make the purchase before there was none available and we had to start all over again. We got our account at the cryobank, gave the doctor's office permission to order and waited to see how many vials we'd get. The doctor recommended 3-4 vials to save on shipping. We got two. We figure it's better than none. Even if we have to do it all over again...search, choose, order, pay shipping...we still have a couple shots with this guy. We have read about and talked to several women who were one hit wonders. Our fingers are crossed that we can accomplish that feat as well.
We also started contacting lawyers to find out what we need to do to get as much legal protection as possible. We've only gotten information from a couple whose fees range from $500 to $7500. Good Lord. The problem is that even with the most expensive documentation, in our state if I adopt the baby no guarantees exist. I think we should go with guardianship, which gives plenty of legal protection for medical decisions, school paperwork, etc. but provides no statements or even implications of financial responsibility. E wants to make sure that I am 50% responsible for this child forever. It's the situation of "I love you, I trust you, I want to spend forever with you, but if you think you're going anywhere, you'd better know that you're still paying half...if I let you live." I completely agree. I hope that we can just draft some additional paperwork that holds us both financially responsible. It's the not-so-fun part...fighting for rights, planning for what happens if something bad happens...but it's life. We'd rather be ready for it than blindsided.
Another successful shopping trip...
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42pickupWell, E has never been a lover of shopping and here the quick purchase is funny and if DAD was here he'd think it's funny too! WE ONLY HAVE FOUR LEFT...it sounds like the late night buying channel...only 2 left..now 2 just went out the door.....so where is the little blessing being kept????Please tell me it's not in the frig! NM
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